I WANTED TO KISS DATING HELLO

I have read a lot of books on singleness but not one line out of all those books caught my attention more than this line – You know you are single when you have to sit at the kiddies table at Christmas! I really thought that summed it up nicely.  It also reminds me of that scene in Bridget Jones where she is sitting at dinner surrounded by a table full of happy couples, or in my case happy couples with 2.5 children, a house and a dog.  I was constantly surrounded by women that had the thing that I longed for, a husband, house and family and these things stared me back directly in the face. These women were always lovely and tryed to be well-meaning Christians and would love to say to me “I don’t understand why you are single, but a guy will come along in God’s perfect time”.  I knew it was true, but let’s be honest, I really just really wanted to punch the next person that said that, mainly because they did not understand what I was longing for, and that I craved to be in relationship. I had read Christian dating books and the truth is I didnt want to kiss dating goodbye, I wanted to kiss it hello!

About me and my journey

I should probably start from the beginning; I was born into a Christian home and was dedicated at the local Baptist church.  I became a Christian at a young age, I can’t tell you exactly how old I was as all I can remember is being in my Bible in school class and praying just to make sure I was saved as I had already previously made a commitment.  It was not until my early teens that I fully committed and understood what I was doing and where I really encountered God in a real way and not just living off my parents beliefs.  I remember being a young teen at a Baptist Easter camp one year and I really prayed that I would get a touch from God, at the meeting that night I met God in a new way and I remember going back to my cabin and I started reading Psalms 139. It became my favourite psalm, especially the part where it says “from far away God understands all your thoughts”, that meant so much to me as there are times no one fully understands or gets our struggles but it is nice to know that God gets it!  After that I got quite involved with Youth Ministry and became a leader and also was involved as a volunteer for Youth for Christ.  Although I was a young woman and my friends all were dating, I was quite focused on what I was doing and with my lifestyle I didn’t really have time for guys… although I must admit I did have quite a few guys that I had crushes on, and yes, you will read a few stories in my blogs about my lame attempts to impress those guys.  Anyway, along with being involved in Youth work and mission my other love is aviation and in the airline world, where I worked, I found that working weird hours is never that conducive to relationships, however… it’s not that I didn’t try.  I, like most women, craved for someone to love me and show me attention and as I got older the craving got worse, and Chocolate did not really fill that gap, although it did hang around with me…on my thighs!  Anyway, I did date some guys and had some interesting and different experiences which you will read about, but praise God, I am now in a wonderful relationship but what a journey getting there! So that is really what these blogs are about, my journey as a Christian singleton and some little life lessons God taught me along the way.  I hope you will be blessed as you read and can have a good laugh at the same time!