Theme Songs

You know in movies there is always like some song that really sets the scene, like in Bridget Jones when she sings "All by myself, don't want to be all by myself anymore!"  Well a quite a few years back I started choosing theme songs for my current stage in life... strangely enough they were usually based on a man or lack of a man situation in my life. I have linked some below that I have had over the years

Something good will come my way
Out of reach
You should of brought me flowers and held my hand
and my most recent I wish you could really see who I really am ...

More recently... well a couple of years ago, my work place moved location and so now everyday I have to walk through the train station and across the road to my work.  I quite like it as I tend to get a theme song most days from the buskers.  Sometimes it is upbeat and other times it can be the blues.  A few weeks ago though, the buskers were playing some song, I am not sure what song it was but it reminded me of the Mary Tyler Moore show and after a some what trying time in my life where my main theme song was Defying Gravity I almost did the spin in the street and threw my hat in the air like Mary Tyler Moore and thought "I am going to make it after all" I'm going to make it after all I thought that was quite a fitting theme song.

Hmmm I wonder what the buskers will pull out tomorrow, I hope it is not "she is like the wind" I never understood those lyrics ... she is like the wind through my tree... weird.... oh I hope it is This will be an everlasting love... we will see I guess.... how exciting :)

Men need to appreciate what us girls go though to get ready for a date!

Can I ask, what is it with guys? Do they understand it doesn’t just take us 5 minutes to get ready, especially on a date we are looking forward too?  We ladies go to the hairdressers, get our nails done, shave our legs and spend like an hour on make-up and then the guy turns up late and looking super casual. 

One time I had met a guy from another city so travelled his city to hang out with him for the weekend.  I was staying at a friend’s house and they knew I was meeting up with this guy so they made plans to go out.  They asked me if I would be alright and I was like “don’t worry about me, I am heading out tonight” so they left.  Meanwhile, I was all ready to go out, I had made myself all presentable and was looking good. While I was waiting for this guy to pick me up I watched a couple of television programs, and then another.  Realising this guy was running late, I sent him a text message, and then waited… and then left him a phone message and then finally I came to the conclusion that I had been stood up.  I was a bit upset as I had flown to this city to hang out with him and could not believe he had stood me up.  Like most women I started over analyzing the situation. Suddenly, out of the blue I got a phone call from this guy…. He apologized and said, he had fallen asleep on the couch! The entire time I was getting ready in anticipation for the date, he had been asleep, sound asleep! What was worse was that he said he would leave right away and come and pick me up but it would mean he wouldn’t have time to clean his teeth or have a shower! Unbelievable! I had spent a couple of hours getting ready and then a couple of hours analyzing why I had been stood up and then just to top it all off, when he arrived he said it would be too late for the movies so we ended up at the McDonalds fast-food restaurant around the corner and then the date was over!

As you can imagine, that relationship didn’t work out.  We are still friends though.  Anyway, it just shows how us ladies are so different from the men! I guess somedays just turn out to be a total waste of makeup!

I WANTED TO KISS DATING HELLO

I have read a lot of books on singleness but not one line out of all those books caught my attention more than this line – You know you are single when you have to sit at the kiddies table at Christmas! I really thought that summed it up nicely.  It also reminds me of that scene in Bridget Jones where she is sitting at dinner surrounded by a table full of happy couples, or in my case happy couples with 2.5 children, a house and a dog.  I was constantly surrounded by women that had the thing that I longed for, a husband, house and family and these things stared me back directly in the face. These women were always lovely and tryed to be well-meaning Christians and would love to say to me “I don’t understand why you are single, but a guy will come along in God’s perfect time”.  I knew it was true, but let’s be honest, I really just really wanted to punch the next person that said that, mainly because they did not understand what I was longing for, and that I craved to be in relationship. I had read Christian dating books and the truth is I didnt want to kiss dating goodbye, I wanted to kiss it hello!

About me and my journey

I should probably start from the beginning; I was born into a Christian home and was dedicated at the local Baptist church.  I became a Christian at a young age, I can’t tell you exactly how old I was as all I can remember is being in my Bible in school class and praying just to make sure I was saved as I had already previously made a commitment.  It was not until my early teens that I fully committed and understood what I was doing and where I really encountered God in a real way and not just living off my parents beliefs.  I remember being a young teen at a Baptist Easter camp one year and I really prayed that I would get a touch from God, at the meeting that night I met God in a new way and I remember going back to my cabin and I started reading Psalms 139. It became my favourite psalm, especially the part where it says “from far away God understands all your thoughts”, that meant so much to me as there are times no one fully understands or gets our struggles but it is nice to know that God gets it!  After that I got quite involved with Youth Ministry and became a leader and also was involved as a volunteer for Youth for Christ.  Although I was a young woman and my friends all were dating, I was quite focused on what I was doing and with my lifestyle I didn’t really have time for guys… although I must admit I did have quite a few guys that I had crushes on, and yes, you will read a few stories in my blogs about my lame attempts to impress those guys.  Anyway, along with being involved in Youth work and mission my other love is aviation and in the airline world, where I worked, I found that working weird hours is never that conducive to relationships, however… it’s not that I didn’t try.  I, like most women, craved for someone to love me and show me attention and as I got older the craving got worse, and Chocolate did not really fill that gap, although it did hang around with me…on my thighs!  Anyway, I did date some guys and had some interesting and different experiences which you will read about, but praise God, I am now in a wonderful relationship but what a journey getting there! So that is really what these blogs are about, my journey as a Christian singleton and some little life lessons God taught me along the way.  I hope you will be blessed as you read and can have a good laugh at the same time!